Nego True – I’m Not Here to Tell You You’re Beautiful (Official Video)

With a slightly lengthy title, I couldn’t help but share Nego‘s latest creation… well the video for it. When someone just has a way with words that touch your emotions, you can’t not share their creations. I’m thoroughly looking forward to his new book also. This spoken word is extremely relevant to today’s generation and is something I have written about before. Beauty is an intrinsic quality that means different things to different people, but for some reason the media want to keep creating a “perfect” idea of beauty.

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Cleo – Beauty for Ashes EP (Free Download)

Cleo (formerly Mz. Bratt/Cleopatra) has made a comeback with a completely new sound. She’s still rapping but now singing too. I heard her sing for the first time a few years ago on 1Xtra and have been waiting since for her to start singing on her own music and I’ve finally waited long enough and I personally think she sounds great! I much prefer this new sound for Cleo; the toned down beats with her smooth vocals over the top are a perfect combination.

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Is Beauty Real?

We, females in particular have grown up under a massive media influence to be perfect. Models on magazine covers are being idolised but no one can ever look like the girl on the cover. There are 4,400 deaths a year due to suicide and at least half of suicides are related to bullying. For every 1 suicide there are 100 suicide attempts. The reason I bring this up is because bullying occurs on judgement of appearance, usually. Someone that stands out, but that’s 4,400 people a year that have a chance to lead a beautiful, wonderful life. They could be the next Beyonce or Channing Tatum or Steve Jobs or Jamal Edwards.
It takes plastic surgery and photoshop for beauty to be seen at first glance, usually. “Fighting and losing the battle against Photoshop while the papers are winning” – Skepta

To quote Nego True: “the girl on the poster don’t even look like the girl on the poster”.

To be classed as beautiful, you have to have a big bum, small waist and a pretty face; I could go into more detail (for example big lips, curly hair). Also, for a female to get attention she has to expose herself to an extent. An example:

But why couldn’t these females be considered beautiful?

With the female on the left, I see a woman who has shown massive amounts of dedication to being healthy… maybe taken it too far (in my opinion) but has shown dedication nonetheless. The woman on the left looks like the epitome of happiness. Why do we have to judge appearance to judge a person?
There is some science behind beauty.
  1. According to exhaustive research done by Germany’s University of Leipzig, the thing that everyone finds sexually attractive in the opposite sex is symmetry. Symmetry has been associated with good health and genetic quality. The following is a “formula” for a symmetrical face…
  2. Researchers at Stockholm University have proposed that our decisions on whether we find someone attractive may be due to hormones that we were exposed to in the uterus or during puberty. Our heavy reliance on visual information, the way our brains evolved systems to recognize/perceive/process various stimuli and/or our desire to pass “attractive genes” to our offspring so that they might have a higher probability of finding a mate and consequent reproductive success.
  3. Studies in humans conducted by researchers at Massachusetts Institute of Technology have shown that men are drawn to things that signal youth such as full lips, clear and smooth skin, clear eyes, lustrous hair, and good muscle tone (which makes sense when viewing a woman for her reproductive potential).
  4. Studies have shown that men prefer women with a waist-to-hip ratio of 0.7. (An hourglass figure).
  5. My personal opinion? We get swayed by media. If someone influential says someone else is good looking.. then we also believe that, or if they change their appearance – they set a new trend. More often than not beauty is a trend… for example men growing ponytails and beards right now.
The list can go on and on. There’s more science about what attracts someone to someone else; previous information was found on THIS website if you’re interested.
Ive also found some shocking videos involving photoshop and make-up and how it can be used for deception (I recommend watching the beginning and skipping to the end as they are quite long):

 I believe that beauty is something that you can see. It’s something you learn to see and appreciate. First appearances always count, of course; but a pretty face can be ruined by an ugly personality. Beauty is individual and what someone sees in one person might not bee seen by another. We all need to start giving everyone a chance instead of cutting off those that don’t appeal to the eyes. Don’t forget Su-Bo.

“As a wise lady once said, love the skin you’re in because beauty has no rules. If they’re trying to sell and impossible dream to a fool, then you ain’t the fool to buy one. These pictures and publications have got people packing their bags for a journey that has no destination” – Skepta

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  • [Thought of the Week]

    "Maybe cheating in a relationship isn't the worst thing you could do, maybe it's just human nature?"

    Remember when you were a child, and your parents would tell you you're not allowed to eat sweets, or make a mess in your bedroom, and you'd do the complete opposite and crave it even more just because you're not allowed? Or if you're on a diet, you know you're not allowed cake or carbs, but simply because you know you're not allowed it, you want it even more? Well surely the same applies in relationships?
    Firstly, I want to start by saying we're not perfect, but perfection is something we should strive towards. Honesty is the best policy.
    A friend of mine is genuinely one of the loveliest people I know, with the best heart and the best intentions and I don't want to show him in a negative light whatsoever, simply provide you with an alternative idea. I've known him for a few years, however we only started speaking properly about a year ago. We both found each other attractive, blah blah blah, so we decided to book a hotel room. He ignored me for a few days, so obviously something was wrong, then he told me there's another girl he loves (obviously I didn't know this before), as they weren't together. I didn't think much of it, actually I was extremely envious of this girl, and that she has someone in her life that is so dedicated and faithful. A few months later, conversation escalated, and we once again decided to go hotel, and a few days beforehand he once again cancelled. This time I was pretty angry and upset, because he'd lead me on and then cancelled. Obviously we're not together but I'm my own person too at the end of the day and don't want to be lead on.
    Another few months later we started talking, innocent conversation about gym, films etc (this time via dm on twitter as I deleted his number and vice versa, I assume), and I had calmed down over the previous incident, he was a genuinely lovely person and I admire the faithfulness to his yet to be girlfriend, I hope I find someone like that in the future. But anyway, we decided to have a gym session together, as we live near each other we went to the park, and for the majority of it, it was a really good session, fun, productive (my legs KILLED the following day) but there was sexual tension, especially towards the end. My back was super sore from gym the previous day and he offered a massage, it was rubbish and he didn't get very far unfortunately as he was starting to give in, and couldn't resist the attraction any longer. Not a lot happened as I stopped him, before it escalated too far. I'd hate for my future husband to cheat on me, so I could only give this couple the same respect (they were together a few months at this point). The following day he thanked me, and was grateful for stopping him.
    The point of this example is, I know my friend loves his girlfriend very much but none of us are perfect and we all give in to temptation now and again. Many males/females cheat because they have a craving, and a hoe gets in the way that has no respect for the relationship and only wants his/ her needs fulfilled, few will have a conscience and stop anything

    Alternatively, on a separate occasion I was speaking to another friend about this topic. He told me that he's seen a sidechick/man save many relationships. His reasons were that if you have an argument with your partner, instead of ending the relationship, you go to see a sidechick/man, relax, then go back to your partner happy and proceed as normal. I disagree with his reasoning however I see the point behind it.
    As long as you don't make a habit out of temptation, and are honest... maybe we're too extreme when it comes to cheating? I disagree with cheating, and don't condone it, however this is just a thought. Everyone get's bored of everything eventually if you get too high a dose, it's just a matter of balance.


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